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Tuesday, January 31, 2012

Difficult thing today

I did a very difficult thing today. 

I have a tendancy to keep things.  No, I'm not a hoarder.  Both my mother and her mother are gone.  I have several large sets of china from my grandmother plus some of her furniture.  I have many items that belonged to my mother.  I have a hard time discarding these items because I feel such a strong connection/attachment to them.  I grew up with these THINGS.  Yes, I know that all the memories are in my head and I don't actually need the items, but still.  I feel like I'm letting these people down if I don't keep them.

I have my mother's wedding dress.  She always said the color was "Candle Glow".  It's kind of a pinkish-ivory.  It's a lovely color~~even still.  Today, I took that dress that she kept all those years since Sept 27, 1952 and cut off the lace, took all the tulle of the veil off the cap, cut off the buttons/loops from the tulle sleeves and threw the rest away~~garment bag and all.  GOD...I FEEL TERRIBLE!  Maybe someday I'll feel lighter; relieved. But right now I feel like crap. 

I want to get some lovely velvet and make a pillow for me and for my daughter.  I just told her about it and she said that would be wonderful; what a good idea.  And she told me that g'ma would be OK with this.  That helped. 


3 comments:

Lisa said...

Wow! I'm so proud of you Steph! Yes, make the pillows for both of you...they're easier to keep around. :) Next stop China?

Anonymous said...

I miss her. She would have liked a pillow too.

Cynthia said...

Wow! I know what you mean. It is so hard to make that decision. As long as you did not get rid of any of the dishes I so carefully helped unpack, clean, and put away at the new casa. I love the pillow idea.